A motley band of brothers traveling as a pack ambled in at 7:58 for Pre-Cal. Just in time. From a distance they are handsome and well dressed in coats and ties. Up close, they are a little disheveled, like they stepped out of their clothes last night and into them again this morning. My favorite part is the peacock-ness of their hair. They slept hard, and it shows. It helps me remember how young they are when they look so grown up. I wonder how many of them brushed their teeth and decided not to go there.
They live together, play together, and learn together. Boarding school builds family and familiarity and deepens connectedness. Yesterday’s test results require a preface. I prep them by explaining what I learned about them and what we need to do now. Learning is our focus, and this moment in time tells us that we need to do more, go deeper, and practice harder. This milestone marker says that we need to back up and try again.
“I made a 42!” he exclaimed with genuine jubilation. It’s what he said next that confirmed his glee. “I know something!”
“I know something!”
I am in awe of what happens next. Every man, child, boy learner, in their coats and ties, stands and high-fives him as if he as won a gold medal, sunk the winning shot, made the field goal in the final 30 seconds.
And then, just as quickly as it started, they were all seated as he said “Bring it, Ms. Gough. What do we do now?”
Group culture is one of the most powerful forces on the planet. We sense its presence inside successful businesses, championship teams, and thriving families, and we sense when it’s absent or toxic. (Coyle, xvii pag.)
Culture is a set of living relationships working toward a shared goal. It’s not something you are. It’s something you do. (Coyle, xx pag.)
Live, learn, work, and serve in a community that highlights what is going well. Focus on learning. Build living relationships. Work toward shared goals.
CULTURE: from the Latin cultus, which means care.
Coyle, Daniel. The Culture Code: The Secrets of Highly Successful Groups. Random House Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.